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What a sick joke! You kick start the holiday season way too early. Pumpkin spiced everything and plaid everywhere? I'm still enjoying sunglasses and ice cream. You can't pick a temperature but you want to make me excited for the fall season to come?
That's not how it works! And now you try to make us excited with the thought of Halloween creeping slowly closer. There is a WHOLE thirty days between your first day and October's first day, I shouldn't be seeing back to school supplies next to Halloween candy.
When you finally start to cool off and change the leaves from green to gold, I couldn't be happier. You are one of the prettiest months, next to October. Your month inspires people to close doors or chapters in their life in order to blossom in the spring. Pulling out my jeans is the highlight of your month, fall fashion begins to take over and the holidays just roll in after you.
You bring us the beginning of football season, bonfires, and nights spent looking at the stars. Although I can't stand your month, there is some enjoyment to it. It is the beginning of October but most of us college students are still feeling the September Struggle.
By this time, many of us have had at least one mental breakdown, 3 assignments due in one day, a Netflix show finished and sleep deprivation. I believe the 'September Struggle' occurs because of one main reason: our professors decide to make everything due in one week during this month.
Granted, this is not the case for all but it sure seems like this is the case every year during this month. You always see it coming, but you never end up being fully prepared. After it's gone, it'll still leave you reeling for a little while, so take time to appreciate being able to breathe. During this month you don't spend countless hours doing homework at first. Then one week it all hits and you suddenly do not have enough time in the day to do all that needs to be accomplished.
Then the 'September Struggle' hits and it hits hard. Next thing you know you'll be walking around struggling to stay awake in class and just trying to get through the week by any means necessary. However, it's all good cause your classmates next to you are in the same boat as you. Your professors all seem to decide at the same time that they have taught you enough to test you, have you give a presentation, write a paper, and do a group project, all in the same week.
During the first bit, it seems easy to stay on top of everything. You may even be able to sneak some Netflix in. Reward yourself with a new series after you survive September. Once October begins to show things begin to look up. You realize fall break is coming and become re-energized. You take a Friday afternoon to reorganize your life. You take another Sunday to catch up on all the work you have gotten behind on and all your favorite shows you have missed. You finally find the time to do all of the laundry you have missed between doing homework and curling up in your bed to try to get a few hours of rest before class.
You begin to form a routine and actually stick to it. As September begins to wind down and October begins to show things are beginning to look brighter and more manageable. Just make it to fall break but don't forget to begin study for midterms! Reward yourself for surviving September, but keep your eye on the prize: a decent GPA! And remember, you are not alone during the September Struggle. Maybe Billy Joel was right, but we can wake everyone up now that September has ended. I did it fam.
The ultimate leap that everyone dreams of - I moved to Europe! And in peak season as well Boy, was I feeling the excitement and my Instagram and Pinterest pages would confirm it. I stayed glued to social platforms pinning every "European Summer Outfit Idea" and "Best Cafe's in Stockholm" that I could find. Soothing myself to sleep each night with countless searches of fashion, food, and home decor the Nordics would offer me. It fed my soul and eased any anxieties that would arise about moving.
It was Mid-June that I embarked on my journey and I'm happy I didn't have to do it solely alone. Me, my boyfriend and 4 suitcases set off together! Mind you, this was not my first time to Sweden. I have been going in and out of the country for over 6 months whilst my partner and I did long distance, so I knew my way around Arlanda, but I've never traveled with more than 2 suite cases before.
It didn't matter though, the bag fee's, the weight, the stress - It all would seem worth it once I was in my modern, Swedish apartment. However, instead of the hot Italian summer air, crisp lights of the Eiffel Tower or the smell of freshly baked baguettes every morning, Aperol Spritz on tap, or the enchanting Spanish music that plays through the darkness that I fantasized about, I was met with 17 degree C water, sweaters and food that lacked any sort of spice.
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Furman University. Featured Leave It All and Move Away. I left my job and moved to Europe. Featured September In Charlotte A poem. Belmont Abbey. On this line Part of a band Supporting beliefs that are mine Now I kneel Hands in the air The emotion I can feel Charging the air I speak my piece Feeling sweet release Justice is what I seek Justice is what I seek Here I stand. Trending Topics. But it's clear that the digital revolution hasn't only been shaped by the human appetite for sex and companionship; it's changed the way we form relationships.
Economists Josue Ortega from the University of Essex and Philipp Hergovich from the University of Vienna wanted to know just how the rise of digital match-making has affected the nature of society. Society can be modelled as a web of interlinked nodes, where individuals are the node and the link describes how well they know one another. Most people are tightly connected with about a hundred nodes , including close friends and family, and loosely connected with others. We can trace pathways through relationships to all come to Kevin Bacon — or nearly any other figure on the planet — in surprisingly few steps.
Even just a few decades ago most new connections were just a jump or two away inside an existing network. A bar, a sporting team, church, or college would typically provide the perfect environment for those first hot sparks. For heterosexual couples, online dating has risen to second place — just below 'met through friends' — as the context for that first introduction. Among homosexual couples, digital match-making has skyrocketed.
As far as networks go, this is like building new highways between towns, rather than taking the local backroads. Just a few random new paths between different node villages can completely change how a network functions. Take interracial relationships, for example, long held to be a measure of the general social distances within a population. Once illegal in many states, and long taboo, marriage between different ethnic groups in the US has slowly been on the rise since the midth century. The increase steepened at the turn of the 21st century in line with the rise in online dating, and then even further as swipe-to-match apps like Tinder went mainstream around it launched in late While there are almost certainly a variety of influences, the network changes resulting from online dating fits the observations perfectly.
Marriages online were also predicted by the model to be more robust and less likely to end in divorce, a hypothesis which is supported by a study conducted in The study is currently available online on the pre-publish website arxiv.
Dating apps enable us to do things we have never done before and are now often created to fit into a specific sub culture. This article discusses several dating apps using theories regarding globalization. The famous opening line of Jane Austen's classic book 'Pride and Prejudice' runs as follows: "It is a truth universally acknowledged that a single man in possession of good fortune must be in want of a wife.
A partner in the time of Jane Austen was usually handpicked or at least approved of by the parents. The rise of newspapers created a solution for this problem, with their personal advertisements section, the analogue version of dating websites.
It is estimated that the first personal ad was placed around the end of the 17th century and its popularity really took off in the early 18th century. However this does not mean it was a socially acceptable way of looking for a spouse.
It was seen as a last resort for people with no other means of finding someone, for instance because they had no family of parents to arrange their matrimony Cocks, The first woman to ever place a personal ad was Helen Morrison. She was even sent to an asylum by the government for four weeks, for it was believed she was mentally unstable.
Helen Morrison was sent to an asylum by the government because she placed a personal ad in the Manchester Weekly journal. A century later society had changed and placing a personal ad had become acknowledged as a reasonably normal way to get in touch with potential partners.
Actually, personal ads were no longer merely used to find a husband or wife, but also to simply look for companionship. Soldiers fighting abroad during a war used personal ads to look for pen pals for instance. Despite the popularity, or because of, there also remained critics, who often worried about the morality of such ads Cocks, It is said homosexual men and women used code words to place personal advertisements looking for likeminded people, but also for unhappily married people for whom divorce was impossible, the personal ads were a much desired way out, and of course, much like in online dating nowadays, there were people who posed as someone else, in an attempt to scam or rob people, or use them in other ways.
Looking for that special someone or companionship became a lot easier at the end of the 20th century with the invention and widespread adoption of the newest technological development: the internet. As stated before dating websites are basically the modern variant of personal ads.
Dating agencies created websites to which people could subscribe usually for a membership fee to get suggestions on possible partners based on certain algorithms and the extensive questionnaires they had to fill in.
With the introduction of smartphones and their applications apps online dating became even easier, and more importantly, more socially accepted. A research from by the BBC showed that the dating app Tinder was the 10th most popular lifestyle app in Canada that year and the 15th most popular one in the US. That same research showed that Badoo and Tinder are the most popular dating apps worldwide, Badoo being number one in 21 countries and Tinder in Tinder and Badoo are easily accessible apps and can be used by anyone, no matter your gender, age or sexual preferences, but there is more to find in the world of dating apps than just Tinder and Badoo.
There are dating apps that focus on smaller communities, trying to connect people on certain common values or interests, for instance marginalised groups like homosexuals, ethnic minorities, but also elite groups, millionaires or extremely successful businessmen and -women.
In deciding which dating app to subscribe to, users choose which part of their identity they want to emphasise in their dating life. Dating apps have created a new online culture, making people do things they have never done before, like creating a number of online personas, all different depending on the medium they are using. The amount of and diversity in dating apps has expanded immensely over the last few years.
There are for instance dating sites you can only subscribe to if you have attained a certain educational level, or look a certain way. In the US you can subscribe to www. com or www. com to meet people with the same political views as you dating website for Donald Trump supporters and Bernie Sanders supporters.
Just a little search on the internet will give you many different kinds of dating apps, such as dating apps for dog-owners, for beard-owners and beard lovers, and apps created by existing organizations, such as a meat company launching a dating app for meat lovers. I start with Tinder, the most popular app in western countries, and then move on to three dating apps that are more at the margins, The Leage, AyoPoligami and TrulyMadly.
Tinder started in September as the first dating app featuring the swipe mechanism. Tinder uses your geographical position to find other singles in your neighbourhood and shows you their profiles which consist of a picture, a name, age and distance.
Only people whose profile you liked and liked you back become a match, which enables the chat function. Tinder empowers users around the world to create new connections that otherwise might never have been possible. Tinder is the most downloaded dating app in 18 countries so together with Badoo it is the most popular dating app in the world.
This probably refers to the other novelty Tinder introduced in the online dating world: the matches you see are based on geographical distance, so you can see instantly which people are in your neighbourhood. Whereas dating sites before Tinder used special algorithms to match people with similar interests, Tinder has an easier method by only using gender, age and distance as factors.
Tinder is more user-friendly and approachable, and its popularity shows us it is also socially accepted. Tinder shows us how identities can be formed in this era of globalization, users create their own profiles, so they can choose how they want to appear to others. They can choose their own identity. A recent research by Sumter, Vandenbosch and Ligtenberg in concluded that there were six different motivations to use Tinder: Love, Casual Sex, Ease of Communication, Self-Worth Validation, Thrill of Excitement, and Trendiness.
These motivations are strongly related to the age and gender of the user. They concluded that: " Tinder should not be seen as merely a fun, hookup app without any strings attached, but as a multifunctional tool that satisfies various needs among emerging adults.
After the rise in popularity of applications like Tinder and Badoo, an immense number of dating apps arose, all trying to be unique by focusing on one specific group of people.
The League , launched in January in San Francisco, and later that year in New York, is a very good example. It is a popular example as well since in the application already had a waiting list of The novelty of this app, and possibly also a reason for its popularity, is that it is very selective in its users.
People are not able to simply install the app and start using it, one has to apply and fill in a questionnaire after which they are placed on a waiting list. People on this list will go through a strict selection procedure and based on its outcome someone will be granted access to the app, or stay on the waiting list.
On which aspects the selection procedure is based is a secret, which probably increases people's curiosity and thereby the number of people on the waiting list.
What is known, is that the app-creators not only use your Facebook account for information, but also your LinkedIn page. With this strategy The League positions itself as a dating app for business people. This positioning becomes clear in many different ways:. With this strategy the League seems to create a micro-hegemony , people want to be seen as succesfull businessmen or -women so they want to have The League dating app as a confirmation.
Other dating apps are even more selective, and are not as secretive about their selection criteria. Dating app Luxy for instance is aimed specifically at millionaires. Users are only allowed if they have a specific income. The very young app AyoPoligami has already received a lot of international attention due to a controversy it caused.
It is an Indonesian dating app very obviously aimed at a specific segment of the population. It was launched in April because the creators wanted to provide an online platform where people could be honest about their polygamy and where men and women who consent to polygamous marriages could find each other in a transparant and safe environment.
It was taken offline not long after its launch and relaunched in October with some adjustments. A dating app in Gaza matches widows to polygamous men who are in want for a second or third wife. To be able to understand why there would be a need to create such an app, one should first know the history of polygamy in Indonesia. Polygamy is legal, but very much taboo. The majority of the Indonesian population is Muslim, and some forms of Islam allow polygamous marriages, therefore it is a law in Indonesia that men can marry up to four wives, as long as they can financially provide for them and the first wife consents to this arrangement.
However, the law has not gone unchallenged. In the past 20 years there have been many protests organised by women to convince the government to change this law, but up to now it has stayed intact.
AyoPoligami wants to make it easier for people who support polygamous marriage to look for partners. The dating app makes sure the law is adhered to by asking men for consent of their first wife and have extensive ways to verify every account. an Islamic process through which the couples get to know each other under supervision.
AyoPoligami is not the only polygamous app however. A similar dating app has been launched in Gaza this year, which matches widows to men seeking a second or third wife.
TrulyMadly , finally, is a dating app created in India. In its usage it resembles Tinder the most, compared to the dating apps previously discussed. The biggest difference between the two dating apps is probably noticeable in their marketing strategies. To understand this hesitance and to comprehend how people in India view and deal dating apps, it is important to understand the historical and cultural context.
For many generations, arranged marriages were the only commonly accepted ways of matchmaking in India. After the technological developments that led to the internet, online matchmaking quickly became a common phenomenon as well.
Parents of single men and women used matrimonial websites such as shaadi. com where they could make profiles for their single family members to find a husband or wife.
In recent years the values of young Indian people have started to shift from those of their parents and the desire to be able to choose their own partner became stronger. That is why TrulyMadly is aimed mostly at singles between the ages of 18 and 25, when the desire to make choices independently from parents is likely to be strongest. TrulyMadly, however, is eager to prove they are different from Tinder by demanding more effort from their users. They not only ask for your Facebook account, but users need to verify in several ways, also with a phone number, to avoid fake profiles.
Users are also requested to fill in extra questionnaires so that the application can find other users that match your interest and meet your demands and also to make sure the user has the right intentions for joining the dating community. Personal ads, dating apps and especially niche dating apps give these opportunities to marginalized people homosexuals, ethnic minorities, women etc. and to people with other than ordinary wants and needs.
Dating apps are also clearly part of this new era of globalization, because people can create their own chosen identity in new ways, giving them a chance to do things they have never done before. On the basis of the analysis of these four apps and online dating in general it is obvious that dating apps have become common in a range of different cultures, and they are all finding possibilities with regard to online dating that fit with local cultural values.
As a user you can use niche dating apps to choose which part of your identity you want to show in online dating, such as your cultural values, your religion or your special passion. Appadurai, A. Modernity al large: cultural dimensions of globalization Vol.
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